 by Karman Kregloe |
Another lesbian talks about "Sex... with Mom and Dad"Not long ago, we told you about a lesbian-themed episode of MTV's half-hour show Sex...with Mom and Dad. The premise of the show is that "Loveline's Sex and Relationship Expert Dr. Drew [helps] a teen and their parents work through their problems about sex, dating and relationships." An AE reader (thanks Michelle!) tipped us off to yet another lesbian-themed episode of the show. Alex, 18, and her mom live in ritzy La Jolla, Calif., and all is not well at home. Alex came out at 14, and her mother still hasn't accepted it. She thinks Alex is going through a "phase" that can be chalked up to her "lack of experience" with guys. As a result, Alex is angry and withdrawn from her. Can Dr. Drew help them? I'm not a regular viewer of the show, but I know Dr. Drew from his work on Celebrity Rehab. Talking about lesbian sex with a parent and child is probably tough, but this is the guy who can make Gary Busey look sympathetic. By comparison, this should be a snap. Over the years, her mom has called her anti-gay slurs like "dyke" and (inexplicably) "fag," which has damaged Alex's self-esteem. Her mother regularly asks her why they aren't close and if Alex can see that she always has a "tone" with her. I think Alex speaks for all of us when she responds simply, "Duh!" So the two of them hop the next silver mini-van to be bathed in the calming glow of the eternally khaki-clad Dr. Drew. Watch the show here in four clips (apologies to our international readers, but MTV has only made this available to U.S. viewers): Clip 1: Willing to Try We're off to a good start with Dr. Drew calling the mom out for her homophobic language. I've never heard the "I'll-call-you-a-dyke-to-see-if-you're-prepared-for-all-the-bigots-of-the-world-to-call-you-a-dyke" line of defense before! Clip 2: Kiss and Tell Icebreaker The ice breaking, dialogue-building exercise that Dr. Drew gave them is like a demented version of The Newlywed Game, and the fact that her mother got so much right about her should be a sobering lesson to us all. Mothers really do know everything, even the homophobic ones. Clip 3: Switcheroo Breakthrough This lesbian Freaky Friday exercise was Dr. Drew's best idea yet! They really got a glimpse into one another's lives, and that's without Alex having to join her mom's bridge club or her mom being forced to drink virgin margaritas with Alex's pals at Chevys! Clip 4: A Process of Acceptance By the end of the show, Alex and her mom have begun communicating with one another and can even laugh at themselves. As part of their homework, they agree to have dinner together on a regular basis. Alex, this could be a great opportunity to introduce your mom to an important part of lesbian culture: the potluck. Submitted by on November 14, 2008 - 1:00pm. |
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make this topic the WHOLE show
sad.. clips not watchable in the UK..
all I get is Sean Bean's voiceover for an O2 add.. nice! Sigh...
Somos una gente
Hay tantísimas fronteras
que dividen a la gente
pero por cada frontera
existe también un puente
EL POEMA
Qué bonito el poema. Lo escribiste?
i like this show. but
i like this show. but it's the title that irks me...the title of this show just does not sit well with me
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Word! the title is gross.
I am only getting the ads
I am only getting the ads on the clips not the clips themselves.
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hey,
try out watching the clip on mtv.com. there it works for me even outside the us
I second that!
is there some kind of
wow
Poor Alex
I thought the same thing
I wanted to take Alex aside and say, "Don't walk away from your Mom on this, ask her a similar question." What do you think Mom's response would have been if the situation had been reversed on her. "Mom, how do you know you wouldn't like kissing a girl if you've never tried it? I think you might just be confused and going through a phase with this whole 'I like men' thing."
her mother's apology for
her mother's apology for calling her "dyke" and "fag" is just ignorant.but i hope it's working out for them.
(the videos are working for me, although i live in germany)
http://www.youtube.com/user/baumhaus08
This show kinda sucks, but
ditto that
Who watches this show, really?
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Apparently....
..I live in the U.S - because I can see the clips (only I'm from Denmark...) I can't explain it.
Don't know the show. But hey - if it works!
"I see gay people..." - I wish!
One minute of anger is 60 seconds of happiness lost...
http://randombutgay.blogspot.com
haha, we (moms) really do
haha, we (moms) really do know everything. Ha! I think it's related to the fact that we know how you smell. I know t hat sounds weird. but even now, if I closed my eyes, I could pick out any one of my children by the way they smell, even in a crowd.
It's sad, but true that not every child enjoys a close relatioship with his or her parent.I'm glad that this mother/daughter were able to start bridging the gaps that separated them, but I think it's unrealistic to expect that ever parent will accept a gay child. I don't think you should give up right away, or even after a lengthy amount of time. But there are some people that will never accept you unless your subscribe to how they want you to be. And we (as parents) will constantly disappoint you (as children). Even after 18 years of estrangement, my parents still break my heart. And the other day, I drove by my former foster mother's house . She still lives there, still takes in foster kids and children of foster kids, just like when I was a kid. This foster mother was wonderful to me. (My daughter and I lived with her between the ages of 16 and 18, my daughter used to call her "grandma"and she had a big ass Yes on Prop 8 sign. That, like, shattered my heart, even though I hadn't talked to her in YEARS. Because it completley changed how I felt about her.
I think this show (this is the only one I've seen because the title honestly horrifies me) will probably need to take into account for cultural considerations. For instance, I'm mixed-- Asian and white but predominantly Asian (my father was mixed, half and half and so he identified as Asian) and although I've tried my best NOT to be like my parents and to have open and honest discourse, I would have been HORRIFIED at tha mastubration question. The daughter in this is 18, my daughter is 18. And I would say we have an okay relationship. I (think) I'm a lot younger than the mother in this-- I'm 33. But I would NOT have been as cool as this mom was about some of the questions because you know, I just wasn't raised that way, and it's cultural and deeply ingrained.
Anyway, I loved that Dr. Drew had the mother talk to young lesbians and the daughter talk to parents. That was just excellent
im white
Clips are working for me,
Same here :)
same, i realize how lucky i