Bridget. Awesome. :D.

** Runs off to watch.**

Even when her own vlog is on hiatus, ms McManus is a busy lady! And stunning looking as ever ;)

Heathens to the left of me, infidels to the right. Tremendous, next thing you'll be telling me you're not virgins!~Xena

She's popping up everywhere since her blog's stopped - i saw her on tellofilms the other day :)

great vlog as always x

those eyes, that smile.... I'm crushing.....

:D

CALL ME ;)

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This certainly helps with the Brunch withdrawals.

And, since this is my first time commenting (I think) on this vlog and I've been watching since the first installment: I love it. You ladies have a fantastic rapport with each other and I love that you discuss some very important topics. It's like The View with less bitching and more lesbians. What more do you need?

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~It means pride.~

I'm not down with dental dams. 

I am down with testing.  And I will not go down there unless I know some medical history.

Get Tested.  Every 6 months, AT THE LEAST, if you're sexually active.  Every year if you're not.

ASK about their history.  Even a one-nighter.  "Hey, I don't care what your name is.  When's the last time you were tested?  Are you clean?"

If It's someone who I can pick up just like that, I'm not doing anything with them if they haven't been tested within the last 3 months.

Has Bridget ever been this quiet? lol how cute

Get it while its hot http://www.youtube.com/user/HollywoodTOProd

Ladies as always it was a delight watching your vlog. And Bridget siting there with you was my cherry on top of cherry bomb, lol.

I did like the quick chat about safe sex, but I wasn't at all fully satisfy. I tought it would be a GENERAL TOPIC not part of the question of the week. Purel, and dental dams are should be a must, that is the only that came off from your conversation.  And I'm not quit ok with this: They ARE a must, But The Test is the #1 requirement. But what's the reality about it???

Please make Safe Sex, THE TOPIC off the week, next time. 

... between the left couch and the right couch on this one. I'd have to say I agree more with Dalila and Tatum on this one, a certain amount of fuzz in friendships is a-ok in my book.

There was talk of bringing a sex educator or women's health expert on the show recently and I hope that happens because this safe sex discussion is something I definitely want to hear more of!

 (Love the show by the way!)

I have to admit, this has been a big issue for me.  I'm very adamant about safe sex, but I'll admit that when I was with one of my best friends and she wanted to go down on me (something I hadn't experienced in six years of relationships) it was hard to insist.  Now, if I visit her, I'm afraid that I'll look like a hypocrite if I ask her to get tested and otherwise require a dental dam.  I had also wanted to use gloves, but ended up forgetting about it.  It's very frustrating!

Spaking of safety, whilst I enjoyed this episode as much as usual, was anyone else really nervous the whole way through that Gloria'd dread lock was going to catch fire on that candle?!

really helpful discussion guys... all that fuzziness about relationships is so familiar lol... its nice to know we all go through the same things. I love how your discussion really flows :)

I also wasn't really satisfied with the safe sex portion of this vlog. I definitely believe this is a topic worthy of its own ep. Is the women's health educator or whoever going to cover that when she's on the show?

I think whoever asked the viewer question of the week was feeling as frustrated as I am about the lack of convo on this subject in the queer women community.

Other than that great ep in regards to fuzzy friendships.

I was amused by this one... especially Gloria (hottttt)

Fuzzy relationships are ok when single.  When you're with someone I think you should definitely have clear boundaries.  I've had the fuzzy relationship with an ex while with someone and I ended up cheating and frankly not really feeling bad about it at the time since the person I was with was new and my ex and I had so much... "residue" Ha! (I was younger then... I wouldn't do it now)

 Dental dams.... I agree they should be used.  But I also don't know anyone who... actually uses them.  I've never seen them on sale in the drug stores so... yea =(

 

"Don't threaten me with love, Baby.  Let's just go walking in the rain."

-Billie Holiday

bye bye fuzz

tHAnks,

Oh my! The heat of Cherry Bomb was raised quite a bit by the addition of Ms. McManus!

I'm all for having Bridget cameos in all the vlogs!

Oh, and I really enjoyed the conversation as usual. Really!

You all know I love me some Bridget! I admit the first thing that attracted me to her was how silly and funny she is,  but this episode was really a nice change of pace. I suddenly saw her in a whole new, refreshing light! I know Bridget is not an idiot, but her blog is really all about being funny and entertaining at the expense of her dorkiness. She was still the amusing and bold Bridget we know and love, but with an edge of sophistication that I didn't even know she had.

On another note, might I say that Nikki and Bridget are totallyl on the same page I am with this fuzzy friends topic. I really value honesty and up front communication. I also agreed with Dalila and Tatum when they said relationships aren't black and white. I loved what Gloria said, but I feel she tends to be too extreme on issues. She's very passionate about EVERYTHING! And that's not a bad thing, I just think it can causes uneeded drama. But I did however like her saying about the street lights. I feel that way too. If you are focusing more on your friends then you are on your realtionship, then something's up!

Now the sex question wasn't really a sex question. I felt it was more a statement then anything. Something I heavily agree with but I feel it's a no brainer. A lot of people know what they should and shouldn't be doing when it comes to adult relationships. I'd like to think that many of us have had some type of sexual education as an adult or common sense for that matter. And I'd also like to think that the lesbian community isn't so dense to believe that we can't catch an STD. I'm a fan of getting tested before I enter the sexual part of my relationship but that's not to say the person you are with feels that way. And yes, I don't do sex on the first date, I don't care how much I like them or they like me! I want to know you before I screw you! Call me old fashioned it's how I feel. Now I'm not above heavy making out! *WINK*

One a side note, does anyone else every feel like applauding the girls each week for promoting healthy communication in your relationship? That is something that really draws me to Nikki in particular. She's always honest about what she wants and not to sound like a hater, but that's so refreshing in a woman! We are all guilty of games at some point in life, but I love the idea of encouraging being open with your partner.

"I hate people, they hate me. So doesn't that classify as a healthy, functioning relationship?"

take a condom and some scissors cut it from the rim all the way to the top thus cutting it and turning it into a flat sheet....and there is your dental dam. You don't need gloves really just a condom if you don't wanna carry a glove or dental dam with ya. THe condoms do come in flavors. Can be used for trib as well if one is into that.

I love the fuzz! It's all warm and snuggly.

 

I guess the fuzzy friendship thing works for me because I find I get along better with people as friends without all the added drama of relationships, and I simply cannot do possessiveness or jealousy, and, likewise, I cannot be clung to. Friends don't suffocate in that way, even when it's fuzzy.

 

Friends with benefits, I guess. Not necessarily sexual, but, you know, there is that element to it. That's not a rule I apply only to myself, because, personally, I don't cheat or mess around with people when I have something serious going on. If I'm not with anyone seriously, then I'll be honest with everyone, "I have something going on with this person; there's a little flirting there." And most people don't care.

 

When I've been in relationships, the fuzziness hasn't bothered me. My first girlfriend had this long, dramatic history with her straight best friend, and I was kind of, you know, rooting for them to hook up (they did!). That's fine with me, as long as there's honesty. I knew from the beginning what I was getting into, and I became great friends with the girl she had that history with. It genuinely doesn't bother me. Likewise, after we eventually broke up and entered the fuzzy friendship stage (mind you, not because of cheating but because of clinginess at a time where I really needed to focus on schoolwork) she was very understanding and respectful when I pursued something with someone else. We both pursued our own relationships, and eased back into the FWB thing when it didn't amount to anything.

 

It's very fluid. I'll admit, it's not always that clear and easy. Like, a friend I've always been kind of fuzzy and flirty with is in a serious relationship, but had an argument with her girlfriend, and started to hit on me when she was drunk. Now, mind you, I have no qualms about being the 'other woman' if someone really doesn't feel satisfied by their relationship, but I wasn't going to let her make that decision while she was drunk, so I didn't do anything, beyond giving her a lift home. We may have a fuzzy friendship, but I'm her friend first, and friends don't let people make mistakes that they're going to regret.

 

I'm a fairly ambivalent person in a lot of ways. I don't really want anything; I just like connecting with people, and, in some ways, relationships don't provide the best way of achieving that. Relationships can be pretentious and full of drama. Friends are the people you're comfortable being totally honest and uninhibited around. Hell, friends are the people you go to when you're bitching about your relationship! At least, that's what it's like in my experience. I don't have enough experience or arrogance to claim that I'm a good girlfriend, but I do pride myself on being a good friend, so, maybe, in a way, fuzzy friendships are my way of expressing those fuzzy feelings.

HI There

What I love about these ladies is not once (or that I recall) have the ladies discussed what they do for a living. I don't know what it's like in America, but in Sydney Australia a person's occupation will basically get you into niche groups in the gay community, espicially the lesbian scene.

This is so refreshing and great.

Cheerio

 

 

 

 

 

You know I've heard from somewhere that safe sex is the best sex, though who has time to be like ooh baby hang on for 15 minutes while I put these dental dams on. Talk about killing the mood right? Though I guess if you haven't seen her test results, its the only way you can be safe. But then again who checks their purse to see if their test results are in there before they go out. lol And for someone like me who doesn't walk around with a purse those test results will have to be like printed on a shirt or something to make sure I don't walk out the door without them. It all sounds ridiculous tho I guess its better to have safe sex than no sex at all cause you got herpes and all sorts of shit breaking out on your face and in the holy grail area. And Gloria babe I don't care how long it takes to put those Dental whatever on, if thats what you like, I'll do anything to fully satisfy ;)

 

As for the fuzzy relationship I was lmao when Nikki was sayin "the wasted friend who always calls for a ride" cause I have a "friend" who does that and most of the time im not just "droppin" her off. lol Though we both understand that its nothing personal its all "buisness". lol I just think that if I were to find that special someone that I can openly date and be commited or be exclusive with then I guess I'll just call her a cab  or something next time. Or just change my phone number and find another closeted lesbian buddy for her. Though I think that if you and your partner communicate and trust each other then there shouldn't be a problem. And if this 'friend' doesn't respect your boundaries you should just get on the bitch and smack her silly.

Thanks for the great wisdom ladies,

Have a blessed weekend

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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"It means you got eyes like apostrophes, you dress white, talk black, and drive Jew. So how am I supposed to know what kind of zipperhead dog-munching dink you are if you don't?" Street Kings 

Great, fun show this week. The fun factor really racheted it up a notch with the guest addition of Bridget McManuss...Never thought I'd actually see her be as quiet as she was on ur vlog...WOW!

Nikki...looking fine as usual...ya know...I pretty much NEVER find myself interested in someone who is 'blond'. I like what u say. I am finding that I'm in agreement in your viewpoints and with ur personality...hmm!

Tatum was looking Hottie-Tottie in her hat...kewl look for ya.  Dalila looking sharp in her outfit, and bringing serious cred int othe conversation. Tatum makes a great 'moderator'. Inoticed when things started to waver, Tatum brought back inline.

Gloria was surprisingly quiet too. When she spoke up....ya listened.

Kudos ladies...

One question though...where do u find dental dams?

 

 

Ms. D and Ms. B in the same room. Dayummn. Wow. 

 

And I'm withNiki on this one. No fuzz, please.

~The world begins and ends with the person next to the godless stars below the hay of stones which waz totally hot~

im 19 and im glad im not the only one using latex gloves but its not really about safety for me and the girls ive been with, i think that it just produces less friction than using bare hands...

and unfortuantly all my friends are straight so ive never been with a "gay girl"  before so we dont go down on each other, apart from one girl but we just used a glove as a kind of 'dental dam'or whatever you want to call it

please.

In the form of safe sex education obviously! :)

 

 

 

 

words of meaning don't mean a thing, if those words don't actually mean anything to you

I thought I'd do a little education here then (God forbid it gets moderated...I just want to  enlighten the ladies!!!)

 

 

download the content (sadly without the lube!) as a .pdf here

 

dowload the brochure as .pdf here

 

download the brochure as .pdf here

 

even though one of my exes did me all kinds of dirty, we were friends for like, another year after it ended for good. It was okay; i mean she was someone to talk to cuz we'd been around each othe for so long that we knew each other all up and through, lol. But once i got a girlfriend I didn't want her around anymore because she's shady and i kinda felt like she was trying to weasel her way back into my vagina.

About this dental dam thing, i'm sorry. I can't be all in the throes of passion and i'm like 'oh exCUUUSE me while i unfold this saran wrap lookin thing...hope you don't mind...' Sorry but that would kill the mood. those gloves? nawh hell. I wash my hands before (and after..bitch i don't know you, lol)

But yeah. I'm not friends with any of my exes..i still keep up with one occassionally (because she went to rehab and i want her to succeed) and another..I thought we were gonna be friends but she never returned my call. (lol yeah just one call.) But actually my exes were boring and most of us had no chemistry. So the wouldn't have made good friends, lol. I hope if me and my current ever decide to call it quits we can remain friends though cuz she's GREAT!

Anyway i ain't no dickrider or nothin (except when i mention dalilah's boobs...) but all four of yall look really good this week! That hat is killing it, Tatum.

 

I got a dick like a mule...with a big dick.

I want a safe sex tool that doesn't require me to not use my hands.  I have tried dental dams and they suck.  Get tested, get them tested, use a flash light, ask A LOT of questions.  And dont put your face in strange places.

is people talking about how dental dams, gloves.....suck. B/C when guys say the same thing about condoms and how thats why they don't use them, they get alot of Sh*t for it and they should, and it seems a bit sexist that everyone doesn't get Sh*t for not having safe sex. Sure you can't get someone knocked up, but ya can prevent getting or spreading an STD.

I really appreciated the brochures. It's too bad the org's in Manchester. There seem to be so many things going on over there. I'm not surprised. The UK does seem to be much more progressive than the states. Again, thanks. And you're really cute !

I can't wait till they have a segment on safe sex. My theory is that due to the extremely low numbers on STDs(ie HIV) amongst gay women, no one really feels compelled to talk about it. It's considered a non-issue and hence, equipment like dental dams are not as readily available and present. Compare this to massive educational campaign and HIV awareness within the gay male population. There doesn't seem to be a legitimate fear or driving motivation amongst us lesbian and bi women.

Can you imagine the hesitation or awkwardness on the topic(the women in the video) being present amongst any other segment of the population ?

I have tried dental dams and they are awful.  I'm all for trying to have safer sex, but dental dams and saran wrap need some serious research & development to make them feel or taste right.

i for one is in the dark in that matter and need some serious crash course in this ASAP.

 

thanks again for a wonderful vlog and interesting input about all what matters to us, great job. :)

was kinda lame. you ladies looked fabulous as always, but i kinda didnt feel as enlightened as usual, particulary not with the online-question this time - what was that?! i often feel ashamed that obviously no attention is paid to protection among lesbians and your reaction to the question today didn't exactly make me feel better.. poor accoustic quality too, volume kept going up and down.

about fuzzy friends i agree with nikki the most - no matter if u have them or not, its most important to be true and keep respect for a partner.