Before being a lesbian was “hot,” I had a collection of straight guy friends — most were guys I worked with. For a while there, I had the best of both worlds: The “girls” invited me to their nights out and the “boys” invited me to theirs. It was seriously fun.

But as the straight world started learning more about lesbians (sort of), both genders got a little nervous around me. The men realized that I was actually a woman. I’m not sure what the women realized, but they obviously were uncomfortable. Maybe they thought I’d attack them in the restroom or something.

I think that’s why I don’t love My Boys — I’m jealous. I want to be P.J. (Jordana Spiro), hanging out at the bar, going to the comic store and drinking beer at ball games with the guys. … continue reading

Several months ago, AfterEllen.com reader Teema suggested a post on the women of poker. Once I started looking into it, I got a little intimidated by how many female poker pros are out there. But now Casino City Times has listed the "Top 10 Women of Poker," giving me a place to start, and guess who popped up? Ms. "Shot at Love" herself, Tila Tequila.

At No. 9 on the list, Tequila is credited with using her celebrity to promote online gaming. I'm not sure if Tila Casino is a good gambling site or not, since online gaming is illegal in Texas and I would never break Texas law. But maybe her poker experience explains why Tequila chose Bobby over Dani. I mean, a straight always beats two of a kind. Sorry.

Erica Schoenberg, No. 8, caused a blip on my gaydar. Especially after I read that the former model also was a professional volleyball player, kickboxing instructor and personal trainer. She's even won a math championship. (Not that math skills have anything to do with sexual orientation. I just thought it was cool.)

But, alas, Schoenberg only has eyes for French poker pro David Benyamine. I still wouldn't mind watching her lose at strip poker. Which she does on the Carmen Electra Strip Poker DVD. (Sorry, you'll have to find those screen shots yourself.) … continue reading